You would think since you harbor all of these warm feelings for the newlywed couple, that writing a wedding card would be easy. Instead, you are staring at the beautiful, elegant, lovely card you chose; you have a pen in your hand and, your mind goes completely blank. You are not alone! While expressing feelings in writing comes naturally for some people, most of us struggle. Let us help out!

The first thing you must know is that there are no rigid rules. If you stay away from phrases like: “Well, good luck, you are going to need it!” you’re pretty much safe. And while you want to sound eloquent and articulate, the essential thing is to be as sincere as you can. Speak from your heart. The second thing is that you should have in mind the couple you are writing to. The etiquette will depend on how close you are to them, how well you know them and their personality. Lastly, take in consideration the timing; anywhere from the day you receive the invitation to a couple of weeks after the wedding is considered appropriate. Some people like to hand them personally at the wedding reception, but unless it is accompanied by a gift (cash!), it is advisable to pick some other time. The groom and bride will have a lot in their hands, and they may lose it. Here are a few practical tips:

To sound formal and elegant:

• Thank the couple for inviting you. “It is an honor to share such an important and beautiful day with you.”
• Compliment the couple: “Seeing the two of you is being in the presence of true love.”
• Wish them luck –in a classy way: “Best wishes and may your journey is filled with blessings.”
• Add something in case you miss the wedding: “Present in spirit, my heart rejoices in your union.”

To sound more casual:

• Welcome them to the family! “Lilly, welcome to our crazy family. We wish you, and Clark, a life filled with happiness.”
• Say something beautiful about their wedding day. “An amazing couple becomes a marriage in this beautiful, memorable day.”
• Say something nice about the couple: “You guys are great together. I see nothing but happiness in your future.”
• In case you miss the wedding. “I am so sorry I am not there celebrating with you. Best wishes from my heart.”

One last tip, end with a warm note. You don’t have to add a poem but a nice line such as “Lots of love” or “Blessings for the two of you.” And don’t spare on the warmth; if you are close to the couple and you love them, now is the time to express it! Don’ t be shy. The world needs as many “I love you” s as it can get, spoken or written.

Best of lucks!